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Day 30 of #Trust30 – 10 Year Text by Tia Singh
Speak what you think now in hard words, and tomorrow speak what tomorrow thinks in hard words again, though it contradict every thing you said today. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Imagine your future self, ie, you 10 years from now. If he/she were to send you a tweet or text message, 1) what would it say and 2) how would that transform your life or change something you’re doing, thinking, believing or saying today?
(Author: Tia Singh)
Ten years from now, I’ll be 43. My kiddos will be 17 and 12. (OMG.)
My tweet would say – @jamidix be who you are, accept who you are, embrace who you are. do the same for those around you.
We all have issues. I think the difference in people is some are better at hiding their issues than others. I have a hard time letting people into my inner circle. Letting them know who I really am or telling people how I really feel. I can literally see a wall around myself for certain people. I’m scared of letting them get to close. I’m afraid of getting hurt. I’m afraid to be who I am at all times for fear that I might be rejected by the ones I love. I’m stubborn. I expect people to change if I don’t like the way they behave or what they believe. I don’t like people telling me what to do or how to be.
So, I bring a lot to the table. But, I also care deeply. I love my family more than anything. I would do anything if you asked. It’s nice to be needed. So, ten years from now, I want to be able to truly accept and embrace who I am and those around me. I think if I could do that now it would lead to deeper, more meaningful relationships. It would mean more happiness.
Day 29 of #Trust30 – Overcoming Uncertainty by Sean Ogle
Nothing can bring you peace but yourself. Nothing can bring you peace but the triumph of principles. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Write down a major life goal you have yet to achieve or even begin to take action on. For each goal, write down three uncertainties (read: fears) you have relating to each goal. Break it down further, and write down three reasons for each uncertainty. When you have three reasons for your fear, you’ll be able to start processing the change because you know where the fear stems from. Now you’ll be able to make a smaller changes that push you towards your larger goal. So begins the process of “trusting yourself.”
(Author: Sean Ogle)
MAJOR LIFE GOAL…MAJOR LIFE GOAL…
President? Nope. Run for some sort of Office? Nope. Be a movie star? Nope.
Move to an island and work at a beach bar? Totally. (I’m not kidding.)
In all seriousness though, I never had super-high aspirations for my career. Call me an underachiever, but all I’ve ever wanted out of life is to raise good kids, have a good marriage, do good work, vacation to new places, learn to relax and enjoy life.
For some people, my list probably looks pretty average. Boring. Some people wouldn’t even consider those goals. But, I look at that list and think they’re all pretty major. Kids. Marriage. Work. Vacation. Relax.
Funny how vacation and relax were listed last.
The word MAJOR scares me. Frankly, so does GOAL. Setting a goal takes commitment. Dedication. For me, setting a goal means saying it out loud. Once you say it out loud you’re committing. Maybe its the commitment piece I’m scared of. What if I can’t do it? Self-Doubt.
God, it always seems to go back to that one place…self-doubt. I hate that place.
If I set a goal, but don’t actually commit, it means I won’t have to be as disappointed in myself. It means I don’t need to feel that ashamed or embarrassed.
But, oh the feeling of reaching a goal. Pride. Happiness. Accomplishment.
I know I’m raising good kids. We were recently at Q’doba having a quick lunch before running errands and Jordan needed sour cream. She went up to the cashier by herself, waited for him to see her and asked if she could please have some sour cream and then finished it off with a thank you. There was a woman standing nearby who got her meal, sat down and then came over to tell me how incredibly polite she was. Those are the moments I live for now.
Marriage is always a work in progress. For me, it’s one of those things where you think everything is fine and then BOOM it’s so, not fine. But, somehow we’ve managed to keep working at it and I live for those moments where you really connect and see eye to eye on something. It feels good. It feels like you’re doing something right.
While I’m not fully employed at an organization forty hours a week, I haven’t been so excited and passionate about the work I am doing in a long time. I am incredibly fortunate to be in the position I am right now. Mornings are reserved for work. Afternoons are reserved for kids. It’s a great balance.
Vacation and relaxation. Those will come with time….and money:)
I don’t have the magic answer when it comes to goals and how to achieve them. All I know is what I believe…if you want anything bad enough, don’t sit back and wait for it to be handed to you. Get up and work really, really hard to achieve whatever it is you’re dreaming of and don’t be afraid to ask for a little help along the way.
Now, about that bar job…
Day 28 of #Trust30 – Alive-est by Sam Davidson
Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. If we follow the truth, it will bring us out safe at last. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
When did you feel most alive recently? Where were you? What did you smell? What sights and sounds did you experience? Capture that moment on paper and recall that feeling. Then, when it’s time to create something, read your own words to reclaim a sense of being to motivate you to complete a task at hand.
(Author: Sam Davidson)
I’ve never felt so alive than when I was on vacation in Hawaii.
On a clear, sunny, warm day I can close my eyes and be there.
I can almost taste the pineapple ice cream we had at the Dole Plantation.
No worries about time. Spending quality time together as a family. Exploring the island in a jeep on our own schedule. It was awesome.
Day 27 of #Trust30 – Personal Recipe by Harley Schreiber
I do not wish to expiate, but to live. My life is for itself and not for a spectacle. I much prefer that it should be of a lower strain, so it be genuine and equal, than that it should be glittering and unsteady. I wish it to be sound and sweet, and not to need diet and bleeding. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Think about the type of person you’d NEVER want to be 5 years from now. Write out your own personal recipe to prevent this from happening and commit to following it. “Thought is the seed of action.”
(Author: Harley Schreiber)
I never want to be someone that is constantly judging someone else. I will always try to put myself in their shoes and remind myself that I don’t know what their story is.
I never want to be “Debbie Downer”. I will try and remember the little things in life that make me happy.
I never want to be in a place that I can’t forgive someone. I will remember what it feels like when I wasn’t forgiven.
I don’t want to be someone who can’t ask for help. I will always help those around me.
I don’t ever want look at someone and think the worst. I will surround myself with people who are not like me.
I don’t ever want to not be able to laugh at myself. I will not take myself to seriously.
Day 26 of #Trust30 – Call to Arms by Sasha Dichter
The secret of fortune is joy in our hands. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
What if today, right now, no jokes at all, you were actually in charge, the boss, the Head Honcho. Write the “call to arms” note you’re sending to everyone (staff, customers, suppliers, Board) charting the path ahead for the next 12 months and the next 5 years. Now take this manifesto, print it out somewhere you can see, preferably in big letters you can read from your chair.
You’re just written your own job description. You know what you have to do. Go!
(bonus: send it to the CEO with the title “The things we absolutely have to get right – nothing else matters.”)
(Author: Sasha Dichter)
The Things We Absolutely Have to Get Right – Nothing Else Matters
- Believe in each other.
- Trust that we’re all doing the best job we can.
- Get to know each other outside of the office. Most of you have families. Ask about the kids. We all love to talk about our kids.
- Be honest with each other, even when its hard.
- Have a purpose in all that you do.
- We have to listen, really listen. Look each other in the eye.
- Having different strengths makes us stronger – appreciate your own and value your neighbors.
- Trust your instincts.
- It’s okay to work with your heart. I think your work will be better for it.
- Laugh at least once a day.
Please sign here: _______________________________________________.
Day 25 of #Trust30 – Most Ordinary by Patti Digh
Good and bad are but names very readily transferable to that or this; the only right is what is after my constitution, the only wrong what is against it. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
We are our most potent at our most ordinary. And yet most of us discount our “ordinary” because it is, well, ordinary. Or so we believe. But my ordinary is not yours. Three things block us from putting down our clever and picking up our ordinary: false comparisons with others (I’m not as good a writer as _____), false expectations of ourselves (I should be on the NYTimes best seller list or not write at all), and false investments in a story (it’s all been written before, I shouldn’t bother). What are your false comparisons? What are your false expectations? What are your false investments in a story? List them. Each keep you from that internal knowing about which Emerson writes. Each keeps you from making your strong offer to the world. Put down your clever, and pick up your ordinary.
(Author: Patti Digh)
I’m not as smart as (fill in the blank of any number of people), so I should just keep my mouth closed.
I’ll sound stupid if I give my opinion, so I won’t.
The world can’t handle another person writing about how cool social media is, so I won’t.
I shouldn’t stick up for myself when I feel I’ve been wronged because I might hurt someone’s feelings.
I’ll never be able to whip up dinner like my mom could.
I’ll never be as good of a runner as my sister.
I’ll never be as clever as some of the people I follow on Twitter.
Day 24 of #Trust30 – Intuition by Susan Piver
The secret of fortune is joy in our hands. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
If you could picture your intuition as a person, what would he or she look like? If you sat down together for dinner, what is the first thing he or she would tell you?
(Author: Susan Piver)
My intuition is definitely a woman. An older woman with warm, gentle eyes.
She’s kind, doesn’t judge and has a warm spirit and soul.
The first thing she would tell me is to trust her. Always.
When things get rough, and we all know it does, it’s important to have a good reliable friend to always be able to count on.
Day 23 of #Trust30 – Courage to Connect by David Spinks
Men imagine that they communicate their virtue or vice only by overt actions, and do not see that virtue or vice emit a breath every moment. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Who is one person that you’ve been dying to connect with, but just haven’t had the courage to reach out to? First, reflect on why you want to get in touch with them. Then, reach out and set up a meeting.
(Author: David Spinks)
This whole Trust30 every day has me hooked. It’s 11:45 central time and I just realized I hadn’t done this today….quickly…here goes….
Reaching out to people has never been difficult for me.
We’re all human. We all breath the same way. We all see the same stars.
I think to often people are intimidated by whoever it is they’re trying to reach out to. Maybe that person has more money. Or maybe they’re smarter than you. Maybe you’ve had a bad experience with them and you’re trying to reconnect. Maybe it’s a family member (you know we all have at least one of those kind of family members) that you haven’t spoke to in years. Maybe it’s the annoying neighbor.
Start simple. Just say hello.
You don’t have to get into the nitty gritty dirty details of whatever your purpose in reaching out is in the first sentence.
Maybe you don’t even come close to the reason you’re reaching out.
Say hello and remember…we’re all human.
Day 22 of #Trust30 – Enthusiasm by Mars Dorian
Trust thyself: every heart vibrates to that iron string. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.” is a great line from Emerson. If there’s no enthusiasm in what you do, it won’t be remarkable and certainly won’t connect with people on an emotional basis. But, if you put that magic energy into all of your work, you can create something that touches people on a deeper level. How can you bring MORE enthusiasm into your work? What do you have to think or believe about your work to be totally excited about it? Answer it now.
(Author: Mars Dorian)
This could not have been more appropriate for me today.
I just resigned from a job that I held for 11 years.
Eleven years I poured my heart and my soul into doing good work.
Somewhere along the line it stopped being fun. Somewhere along the line I realized that there would be no growth for me. Somewhere along the line I realized I was being required to ask permission for every detail.
One day, I realized that this was just a job.
I pulled into the parking lot every day. Pictured myself putting my heart in the passenger seat and going in to do the job. It was easier to do that then to admit that a place I once loved, believed in and deeply cared for wasn’t at all that place anymore. I’ve grieved. I’ve been angry. And while June 3rd was my last day, today I had to tell them that I no longer could be called on.
I think this is what a divorce feels like.
I work with my entire being. You don’t just get my skills. You get my skills, experiences and most importantly, you get my heart.
Employees, especially good employees, want to be respected. To be trusted. To be believed in. When those are all taken away and you get an place holder. You get someone who goes to meetings, listens to what is said and does the what they’re told. No questions asked.
Take away respect, trust and belief and you also won’t get creativity, new ideas or spirit.
For me to have more enthusiasm about my work, I need room for creativity. I need for those around me to be open to new ideas. And, most importantly, I need to know the work that I am doing is appreciated and makes a difference. It’s always more than just a job for me.
Day 21 of #Trust30 – You Know by Jen Louden
Nothing is at last sacred but the integrity of your own mind. Absolve you to yourself, and you shall have the suffrage of the world. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
We live in a society of advice columns, experts and make-over shows. Without even knowing it, you can begin to believe someone knows better than you how to live your life. Someone might know a particular something better – like how to bake a three-layer molten coconut chocolate cake or how to build a website – but nobody else on the planet knows how to live your life better than you. (Although one or two people may think they do.) For today, try asking yourself often, especially before you make a choice, “What do I know about this?”
(Author: Jen Louden)
Who doesn’t doubt themselves occassionally?
I think I doubt myself more than I should.
Occasionally, I like to tune into Oprah or Dr. Phil. Makes me feel better about myself. At least I’m not that crazy!
What about Hoarders or Intervention? Not even close.
I’ve got a good head on my shoulders. Very level headed. Lots of common sense.
I don’t pretend to know something I don’t.
When did our society turned into everyone being an expert on everything?
When did everyone begin believing that we needed to hear what they had to say?
When did we stop listening to each other and just keep rambling?
When did we stop trusting our gut when it comes to making decisions and listen to what a friend or family member, or worse yet some so-called “celebrity” on television?
We are all experts on at least one thing – ourselves.
Trust yourself. Trust your gut.
And, for the love of God, turn off Dr. Phil.
Do you have shows that you watch that make you feel better about your life?