Day 19 of #Trust30 – Facing (and Fearing) by Dan Andrews

Greatness appeals to the future. If I can be firm enough to-day to do right, and scorn eyes, I must have done so much right before as to defend me now. Be it how it will, do right now. Always scorn appearances, and you always may. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Trusting intuition and making decisions based on it is the most important activity of the creative artist and entrepreneur. If you are facing (and fearing) a difficult life decision, ask yourself these three questions:

1) “What are the costs of inaction?” I find it can be helpful to fight fear with fear. Fears of acting are easily and immediately articulated by our “lizard brains” (thanks Seth) e.g. what if I fail? what if I look stupid? If you systematically and clearly list the main costs of inaction, they will generally overshadow your immediate fears.

2) “What kind of person do I want to be?” I’ve found this question to be extremely useful. I admire people who act bravely and decisively. I know the only way to join their ranks is to face decisions that scare me. By seeing my actions as a path to becoming something I admire, I am more likely to act and make the tough calls.

3) “In the event of failure, could I generate an alterative positive outcome?” Imagine yourself failing to an extreme. What could you learn or do in that situation to make it a positive experience? We are generally so committed to the results we seek at the outset of a task or project that we forget about all the incredible value and experience that comes from engaging the world proactively, learning, and improving our circumstances as we go along.

(Author: Dan Andrews)

The cost of inaction is usually loss.  Loss of friendship, loss of control, loss of yourself.

I have a really hard time when it comes to making tough decisions.  Especially if there is a threat of confrontation.

I’d rather live in a state of denial, or just flat out ignore, than deal with whatever is looming.

And, I often do.

But, what’s worse than ignoring the decision is dealing with it when you have no other choice.

Often, you’ve already lost something.

How can you get it back?  Maybe you can’t.  To much time has gone by.

Feelings were hurt.

If only you had made different choices long ago.

You might not be so sad today.